If so, I'm going to let you in on a little secret that everyone who's ever wrestled with failure needs toknow. It's a secret so powerful that it has completely changed the lives of people who know it. It's also something that would cost the self help industry a lot of money if it became common knowledge.
The secret is this: There is no way to keep yourself from failing. It's impossible. Forget about it. It's inevitable. Your Mama can't save you. Daddy's got no pull. Life is a dance, you learn as you go. You will fail.
Now that that's out of the way, forget about the "You Won't" part of the subject line, cause it's a lie. We may as well scratch the "5 Reasons why People Fail" part too. Who cares? Let's look at this another way. How can we make the most out of our failures?
Everybody has secrets. I'd love to know:
What's YOUR secret to dealing with failure?
Keeping my head straight and re-adjusting my goals. Not everything works out perfectly, but try to adapt and figure out where to go from that failure. Do my best to turn it into as much of a victory as possible.
Sometimes turning failure into victory is difficult. What specifically do you do to keep your head straight and turn your failure into victory, Corey?
I definitely look to take responsibility for where the failure is my fault, but there are some circumstances where you've just gotta say "ya know, I did my best, and this clearly isn't what I need to be doing at this time, because it's not working and I gave it my all." I'm not a fan of stagnating, I don't want to keep grinding at one thing that's not working; it's different than quitting, even though it often still feels like quitting or failing.
I agree. Hate working on something that is obviously not working. Move on and be productive.
I really like this list. Thanks, David.
Realizing how important point #! is. The ability to learn from our mistakes and have a positive take-away from failure is what we need to focus on. I've had to tell people under my supervision, "This objective wasn't met; we need to regroup and hit it next time. What did WE (emphasis added) learn from this?" or words to that effect. It's important to realize that the sun keeps rising and the earth keeps turning as well; sometimes you just have to look at the biggest picture and keep on keeping on.
Nice technique, Jerry. I appreciate the fact that you don't personalize failure. It sounds like you dialog about the issue instead. I'm betting this conveys a clear message that maybe some of "our" best moments happen after a failure. It also teaches others that mistakes are okay and we're going to learn from the. Nice!
I feel the same way about failure as I do about death. It is inevitable. Own up to your responsibility in the failure and make a list of what you learned (I am big on lists.) Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, don't apologize (unless you threw someone else under the bus in trying to dodge your responsibility) and move on. If you make the same mistake over and over, seek help.
I look forward to the day I am perfect. Until then, look at all things as teaching you the path to perfection.
I like the last part of your reply and with your permission Janina (and a slight modification), I think I have a new personal mission statement:
"I look forward to the day I am perfect. Until then, I will look at all things as teaching opportunities on my path to perfection."