Nice reflection, Candace.
Your situation is different, but I’d take issue with this statement:
“Our partners do not share the housework and child rearing, so we find ourselves with two full-time jobs.”
At least for my peer group, I know that every guy – to a man – pretty much splits the housework and spends a lot of time with the kids, often intentionally striving to relieve their wife.
That being said, it is true that the woman still take the lion’s share. If there were a set of scales, they’d definitely tip toward the woman doing more of the house and kid care than the guy – so I’ll grant that. I do think, however, that we need to be careful about painting guys as irresponsible, in general, and not contributing to the home unit.