Moody boss vs. age and difficult time to find another job
July 15, 2010 at 1:32 pm #105751
What is the proper advice for a male director victim of a crazy boss (up and down moods-yelling and screaming employees under his supervision) when nobody in a high level of authority wants to resolve the problem?
My recommendation will be “hey, you need to start looking for another job.” but I have to consider the difficult economical situation and the age of that director (he is 55 years old).
Did you have an experience like it? or did you know somebody under that uncomfortable situation? How they resolve the problem?
July 15, 2010 at 5:01 pm #105759
A “crazy boss” is not new. These type of people are peppered around workplaces all over the world. Not being able to witness firsthand, the interpersonal dynamics between the boss & Director, it’s pretty difficult to offer suggestions.
Yet, over the years I’ve learned this important lesson … running away (essentially) from an employment challenge is not usually the best advice to give someone … and my reasoning has nothing to do with losing that employee. The adept employee is the person who figures out how to deal with interpersonal challenges so, when presented with similar, future situations, the person will have learned the necessary skills, through practice, to handle them with less effort.
It sounds like this boss has a bipolar management style. And remember, this bipolar management style is focused on someone who is a supervisor (I’m guessing that’s the case, since you referred to that person as a “Director”). So, it is even more important that the Director learn how to handle this type of interpersonal nightmare. The secret to working with this type of boss is to figure out which of your buttons they push … and then MOVE THEM!
Perhaps it would be helpful if the director met the boss, head-on (so to speak), with a frank discussion centering on “when you do this, it makes me feel….” (for example). Or perhaps it would be worthwhile for the Director to just lay it out on the table to the boss by saying something like, “Are you aware that it is difficult to work with you?” That might get the lines of communication open.
All bosses (bipolar or otherwise) have egos … it’s up to the Director to figure out how to stroke that ego and then, use it to an advantage when that “crazy” stuff comes out. But again, without witnessing the bossdirector dynamics, it’s pretty difficult to make specific suggestions.
July 20, 2010 at 8:06 pm #105757
Dianne Floyd SuttonParticipant
There are several perspectives to examine in this situation. The suprevisor and employees may have been getting away with disrepectful and inappropriate behavior for years. Nobody complained so the supervisor and employees may now feel this is normal behavior that people will accect. This type of behavior may violate civil service rules of appropriate conduct for employyees and definitely by a member of management. The supervisor may also be going through personal drama (i.e. family, health, etc.) The behavior may be symptoms of physical problems. But only the supervisor knows.
The key here is to stay clam and cool. Model the behavior you want. You are not going to change your supervisor or coworkers. But you can ask for repect and continue to ask. Don’t think of yourself stuck.
August 4, 2010 at 12:51 am #105755
Hi, Doris, I liked and enjoyed your answer! I did not think about your creative phrase “bipolar management style.” Unfortunately, my friend was fired for that crazy supervisor. He told me that as you mentioned in your comments, many directors under the supervision of this supervisor (President of the company!!!) received the same treatment from him, including women. Those employees did not have another place to go and put a complaint. I agree with you that with this type of bipolar management style boss is difficult to make a suggestion. Thank you very much for your comments!
August 4, 2010 at 12:54 am #105753
Hi, Dianne, my friend told me that this supervisor had that behavior only with Directors under his supervision. Most of them had been tolerating his crazy and disrespectful behavior because of the economic situation. I asked him if he was calm and cool when the crazy man was totally out of control and he said he used that tool but it did not work because if he did not say anything the supervisor was more crazy. I agree with you. That supervisor had some medical condition or as Doris said the supervisor has a “bipolar management style.” Thank you very much for your help and your comment!
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