Fear. Mine is always meeting new people. Extreme introvert as a child, I wanted friends and realized that I would have to get outside of myself to do this. I watched people at school, how they treated their other friends and interacted with people in general. Hoping to catch a tidbit that I could use to open a conversation. Then I approached one person and started a conversation, and another, and another, with big knots in my stomach, hoping I did not look as stressed on the outside as I was inside. Smile! Be friendly! Say hello to people in the hall! I made friends and many are still my friends today.
It is still so out of my nature, but I continue to do it. Walk into a room full of people, smile, say hello, and introduce myself (well, sometimes I find a corner for a while to gather my courage). It still hits me in the gut and I still hope I don’t look like I feel. People later tell me I was agressive and confident and I tell them they have no idea what it takes for me to ‘act’ like I am an outgoing person. Deep inside, I don’t want to be the wallflower at the dance that I was before my BIG decision.
Courage to stand up for yourself, for what is right, and to stand up for others has always been important to me, especially in leadership. I am not inclined to follow someone who is willing to throw me under the bus. Too bad that sometimes the bad guy wins. But sometimes the good guy wins, you just have to take the chance. Risk it. People will follow.
Recent Articles on GovLoop
- What Makes a Good Government Employee? GSA’s HR Exec Answers Your Burning Career Questions
- What You Need to Know About the New Federal Employee Vaccine Mandate
- The Essential Guide to B.E.E.P Skills: 4 Critical Competencies for Leadership Success Pt. 2
- 7 Ways to Beat the Fraudsters in Online Citizen Services
- Government Leaders Share Tips to Engage Communities in ARP Spending