Stephen Peteritas started the topic Saying Sorry, Is It Worth It And How Should I Do It? in the forum Career Advancement 7 years, 4 months ago
This question came across my desk from a GovLoop member who for some obvious reasons wanted to stay anonymous, but I think the question still rings true and wanted to throw it out to the community for discussion:
I have made a professional mistake and would like some advice. In a previous position with the federal government, I worked for a supervisor that was a great person, but did not have the best management skills. My mistake? I commiserated with a coworker in a semi-private setting. Another person was present that I thought I could trust. However, I noticed my supervisor started to get distant, although we still had limited interaction as part of my job. I left for another position, but recently saw my previous supervisor. Time (and maturity) has given me perspective, and I actually believe this supervisor forced me to have skills that are now essential for my current position. I wanted to thank him for the experience, but he avoided me like the plague. I feel terrible because I should have acted more professionally, and because I actually like the supervisor as a person. (Secondarily, I am also concerned about my own reputation, because I work for a very small agency as a contractor.) Any advice? Shall I try to meet with him, send him a note/email, or leave things be? This will be the last time I make this mistake – you never know what a manager is facing or how difficult his own position can be, and I cannot take back my own words.
So what would you do? Is it worth saying sorry or best to just move on and live and learn?
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