“The greatest good you can do for another is not to share your riches but to reveal to him his own” – Benjamin Disraeli
Before dive right into how to land your dream job, let’s do some internal work first.
According to psychologist Sydney Jourard, 85 percent of your success in work is determined by your attitude and personality.
It has been said that we do not attract what we want, but rather we attract who we are, for we are the sum total of our thoughts. Your thoughts determine your attitude which creates your personality.
So why haven’t you landed your dream job yet?
It may be a simpler answer than you think. Scientific studies show it largely depends on how much people like you and want to help you.
Imagine for a moment, what your personal and professional life would be like if you knew that every room you walked into people wanted to hear what you had to say, wanted to help you, and were eager to gain your approval?
Would that change your life at all? I agree.(I hope you said yesJ).
For charismatic people, this is their way of life. People feel drawn to them and feel compelled to help them. They seem to experience less stress in life and tend to make more money than the average person.
Let me ask you:
- Does that seem appealing to you at all?
- Do you think that could be a valuable skill set to possess at work?
- Do you think it would be easier for you to land that promotion?
In her book, The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism , author Olivia Fox Cabane says there are three surefire ways to get people to like you more.
- Presence: being aware of you what’s happening around you
- Power: being perceived as being able to affect the world around you
- Warmth: goodwill toward others.
Former Prime Minister Benjamin Disraeli is an excellent example of all three characteristics. In the summer of 1886, Disraeli was running to become prime minister. His opponent was William Gladstone. In the last week before the election, both men happened to take the same young woman out to dinner.
The press asked what her impressions were of the two gentlemen. She said, “After dining with Mr. Gladstone, I thought he was the cleverest person in England. But after dining with Mr. Disraeli, I thought I was the cleverest person in England.”
Disraeli won the election.
He made other people feel intelligent and fascinating. Disraeli was truly other-people oriented. He wanted to make others feel good about themselves. He sincerely cared about others. For this, he was able to ascend to one of the highest offices in England at that time. You can do the same in your workplace. Seek to help others and you will advance within your federal organization.
Cabane gives three quick tips to gain an instant charisma boost in any conversation:
- Lower the intonation of your voice at the end of your sentences
- Reduce how quickly and how often you nod
- Pause for two full seconds before you speak
Charisma gets people to like you, trust you and want to be led by you. It can help you achieve your goal of getting promoted. Many studies show that charismatic people receive higher performance ratings and are viewed as more effective by their superiors.
Your career trajectory largely depends on how well you get along with and can influence others. If you are positive, friendly, and sincerely helpful, everyone including your manager, will have to take notice.
Next week we’ll dive into some actionable steps you can put in practice to get you that job you deserve.
See you next week.
P.S. I highly recommend reading the book below: