I too have felt it … the negative emotion that creeps up inside you after putting yourself out there and not being chosen. Some of us give up and decide that the system is fixed. We share our disappointment with all of our friends and family and proclaim that the system is rigged and just not fair. After some research on Abraham Lincoln, I now know that this attitude will not help me with my personal goals.
Lincoln’s troubles began in 1816 when he and his family were forced out of their home. Then two years later his mother died. Apparently Lincoln’s path to success included multiple failures. In the end he did succeed in his personal goals, but along the way he failed in business, ran for state legislature where he did not win, lost his job, went bankrupt, was engaged to be married and his fiancé died; and then he had a nervous breakdown.
Overcoming those problems, Lincoln ran for six other public offices from Land Officer in his home state to the Senate and again, he lost. In 1856 Lincoln sought the nomination for Vice President of the United States and could not even get 100 votes. He finally managed to become a State Legislator, and then a Congressman, and in 1860, President of the United States.
I am sure that President Lincoln felt that same self-defeating emotion creep up inside of him after putting himself out there and being rejected. But one can see that Mr. Lincoln did not give up. His actions emphasized that it is not what happens to you in life, but how you react.
Check out this short video on overcoming obstacles and let me know if you too have decided to fight the negative emotions that can block your personal success.